The Undivorced

I have  a new story in yesterday’s Styles section of The New York Times about couples who separate and stay separated indefinitely, rather than proceeding directly to divorce. Call them the Undivorced. (I did.) The comments section is really fascinating. While it would be impossible to quantify whether the number of these undivorced couples is […]…
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Men in Love

I have a new Studied column in this Sunday’s Styles section of the New York Times about relationship woes and men. A new study suggests that young men suffer more when relationships are going poorly. Meanwhile, women care more about whether they’re in a relationship or not, no matter the quality of the bond. What […]…
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Does Moving as a Child Create Adult Baggage?

Yesterday I wrote about a new study highlighting potential problems for people who move a lot during childhood. The study raised a lot of interesting questions, some of which it answered statistically, some hypothetically. Does moving during childhood negatively affect people? Do the affects last past childhood, shaping who we are as adults? Do the […]…
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On the Motherlode

Lisa Belkin over at the Motherlode blogs about the July/August issue of The Atlantic in her most recent post, calling out my piece as well as Hannah Rosin’s on the state of men and parenthood. Belkin pretty much presents the facts in both stories and weighs in at the end. Many of the comments posted […]…
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The Benefits of Dads AND Lesbian Moms

I wrote a brief piece in the current issue of The Atlantic with the rather provocative title, Are Fathers Necessary? that to me, at least, offered a rather prosaic conclusion: Yes, most of us consider fathers to be necessary and value them as such, but the existing research does not bear out any benefits exclusive […]…
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