Comments for Pamela Paul | Official Site | Author of Parenting Inc., Pornified, The Starter Marriage http://www.pamelapaul.com Just another WordPress site Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:20:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Comment on Twitterated by Judy DiCenzo http://www.pamelapaul.com/2011/06/03/twitterated/#comment-25387 Judy DiCenzo Wed, 28 Sep 2011 19:20:57 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/?p=391#comment-25387 PLEASE HELP! Hello Ms. Paul- I hope I have the correct Pamela Paul- although it seems that you are a one and only. My coworker gave me a copy of a Vogue article on chronic Lyme disease. My husband has suffered for 15 years and is weakening at a terrrifying pace. Please, can you perhaps give Ms. Lillevik my contact information or call me to help me to understand where to begin to get in touch with the specific people who helped her? Desperately, Judy PLEASE HELP! Hello Ms. Paul- I hope I have the correct Pamela Paul- although it seems that you are a one and only. My coworker gave me a copy of a Vogue article on chronic Lyme disease. My husband has suffered for 15 years and is weakening at a terrrifying pace. Please, can you perhaps give Ms. Lillevik my contact information or call me to help me to understand where to begin to get in touch with the specific people who helped her? Desperately, Judy

]]> Comment on My First Children’s Book by admin http://www.pamelapaul.com/2010/12/20/my-first-childrens-book/#comment-24097 admin Fri, 16 Sep 2011 00:09:35 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/?p=335#comment-24097 Thanks so much, fixed! Thanks so much, fixed!

]]> Comment on My First Children’s Book by Brent http://www.pamelapaul.com/2010/12/20/my-first-childrens-book/#comment-24066 Brent Thu, 15 Sep 2011 17:06:55 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/?p=335#comment-24066 The link in this blog to your "very first review" is broken. Just thought you'd like to know! The link in this blog to your “very first review” is broken. Just thought you’d like to know!

]]> Comment on More Picture Books by Stephen Macquignon http://www.pamelapaul.com/2011/01/03/more-picture-books/#comment-20544 Stephen Macquignon Sat, 13 Aug 2011 10:59:22 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/?p=341#comment-20544 It has a feel like Books of Wonder here in NYC love that store! It has a feel like Books of Wonder here in NYC love that store!

]]> Comment on Twitterated by Rodrigo Morlesin http://www.pamelapaul.com/2011/06/03/twitterated/#comment-20498 Rodrigo Morlesin Fri, 12 Aug 2011 23:47:54 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/?p=391#comment-20498 Hello Pamela! I just saw your interview video on NYT about Babar. I loved it! Congratulations! Hello Pamela!
I just saw your interview video on NYT about Babar. I loved it!

Congratulations!

]]> Comment on More Picture Books by Kathleen Martin http://www.pamelapaul.com/2011/01/03/more-picture-books/#comment-11951 Kathleen Martin Fri, 27 May 2011 20:08:06 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/?p=341#comment-11951 We've just had the sad news in Canada that The Flying Dragon children's bookstore in Toronto is going to close (http://flyingdragonbookshop.blogspot.com/2011/05/farewell.html). But my two favourite bookshops for kids in Canada are still going strong: Kidsbooks (kidsbooks.ca) in Vancouver and Woozles (woozles.com) in Halifax. I like the changes you've made to the children's books section in the Times. We’ve just had the sad news in Canada that The Flying Dragon children’s bookstore in Toronto is going to close (http://flyingdragonbookshop.blogspot.com/2011/05/farewell.html). But my two favourite bookshops for kids in Canada are still going strong: Kidsbooks (kidsbooks.ca) in Vancouver and Woozles (woozles.com) in Halifax.

I like the changes you’ve made to the children’s books section in the Times.

]]> Comment on Men in Love by Tristan Brown http://www.pamelapaul.com/2010/07/23/men-in-love/#comment-877 Tristan Brown Sun, 26 Dec 2010 02:07:31 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/blog/?p=40#comment-877 My own experiences and discussions seem to back up this hypothesis. Despite my best efforts to find lasting relationships, I've found myself single for long periods of time quite frequently over the past few years. After losing a relationship, it takes months or even more than a year to find someone I can start a relationship with again. On the other hand, the girls around me have usually started a new relationship the day before ending their old one. So, it's not usually a problem of nobody being interested in me- the problem is that every female friend I have is already taken, including the ones who express interest in starting a relationship with me. I decided to investigate this phenomenon a little further, talking with some of these girls to find out why they are in relationships they don't really want. The common answer: "I don't know- it's just nice to have someone there." In other words, it doesn't matter who it is, but someone- anyone -has to be there. And the reason why the transition between relationships takes them -1 days? They're afraid of being alone. So they keep friends nearby who they could potentially bring into a relationship later. That way they have a continual pool of potential suitors, from which a new mate can be picked any time the current relationship is going south and nobody better can be found. Or, if somebody truly better IS found, then the old boyfriend is dumped, the suitor pool is bypassed, and the lucky new guy gets to be the new boyfriend. Strangely enough, it's often these same women who try to convince other guys that they shouldn't start a relationship unless they plan to stay with that girl through marriage (even if it doesn't work out that way- just so long as you plan it). I don't know why it's like this- maybe it comes from militant feminism, or maybe it comes from unrealistic Disney-inspired dreams -but the whole framework is built up to keep women in relationships and men chasing them. Now, this situation used to be very harsh on me. I'm a very loyal and trusting guy, and I don't want to be portrayed as a cad. Girls can be vicious to a guy who makes their affections known too early, so a lot of caution is in order. There have been times in the past when I could feel myself rising through the ranks of friendship and comfort, only to placed into the friend-pool with the rest of a girl's many suitors. It hurts every time, and you learn to deal with it, but the unfairness and inequality of it all is always frustrating. I guess this is why it matters so much that a relationship go well. Young women tend to be able to start and stop relationships as they please, whereas men have to put a lot more work into it, and deal with a lot more frustration. So if I really care for a person, I'll do everything I can to keep her with me. My own experiences and discussions seem to back up this hypothesis.

Despite my best efforts to find lasting relationships, I’ve found myself single for long periods of time quite frequently over the past few years. After losing a relationship, it takes months or even more than a year to find someone I can start a relationship with again. On the other hand, the girls around me have usually started a new relationship the day before ending their old one. So, it’s not usually a problem of nobody being interested in me- the problem is that every female friend I have is already taken, including the ones who express interest in starting a relationship with me.

I decided to investigate this phenomenon a little further, talking with some of these girls to find out why they are in relationships they don’t really want. The common answer: “I don’t know- it’s just nice to have someone there.” In other words, it doesn’t matter who it is, but someone- anyone -has to be there.

And the reason why the transition between relationships takes them -1 days? They’re afraid of being alone. So they keep friends nearby who they could potentially bring into a relationship later. That way they have a continual pool of potential suitors, from which a new mate can be picked any time the current relationship is going south and nobody better can be found. Or, if somebody truly better IS found, then the old boyfriend is dumped, the suitor pool is bypassed, and the lucky new guy gets to be the new boyfriend.

Strangely enough, it’s often these same women who try to convince other guys that they shouldn’t start a relationship unless they plan to stay with that girl through marriage (even if it doesn’t work out that way- just so long as you plan it). I don’t know why it’s like this- maybe it comes from militant feminism, or maybe it comes from unrealistic Disney-inspired dreams -but the whole framework is built up to keep women in relationships and men chasing them.

Now, this situation used to be very harsh on me. I’m a very loyal and trusting guy, and I don’t want to be portrayed as a cad. Girls can be vicious to a guy who makes their affections known too early, so a lot of caution is in order. There have been times in the past when I could feel myself rising through the ranks of friendship and comfort, only to placed into the friend-pool with the rest of a girl’s many suitors. It hurts every time, and you learn to deal with it, but the unfairness and inequality of it all is always frustrating.

I guess this is why it matters so much that a relationship go well. Young women tend to be able to start and stop relationships as they please, whereas men have to put a lot more work into it, and deal with a lot more frustration. So if I really care for a person, I’ll do everything I can to keep her with me.

]]> Comment on Ring Around the Rosie, My Little Pony, and That Deep Dark Feeling of Doom by Nicole http://www.pamelapaul.com/2010/08/27/ring-around-the-rosie-my-little-pony-and-that-deep-dark-feeling-of-doom/#comment-59 Nicole Sun, 29 Aug 2010 06:05:58 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/blog/?p=46#comment-59 As a Family Physician, I see many families that struggle with mental health disorders across several generations. This article came as no surprise but it was nice to see things put into a more social and political context than I usually get to see. Based on personal experience, I do believe that pre-school children experience depression. However, I feel that any diagnosis must be done very carefully and constantly revised given how quickly children change. I am also very wary of the pharmaceutical industry's influence on and self-interest in creating a diagnosis for toddler depression. The most intriguing part of the article dealt with possible treatment. It seems that PCIT is the most effective treatment. But as the article states, "not all parents are equipped to handle the vigilance, the consistency, the sensitivity" that PCIT requires to be effective. Not to mention the financial resources, time, or access to mental health providers. And if a caregiver is also experiencing depression or anxiety, they will be that less likely to be able to recognize depression in their child, much less support and help treat them. I feel especially grim about the prospects of children from lower socioeconomic groups getting any type of treatment or support from their over-extended families, schools, or community health centers. As a Family Physician, I see many families that struggle with mental health disorders across several generations. This article came as no surprise but it was nice to see things put into a more social and political context than I usually get to see. Based on personal experience, I do believe that pre-school children experience depression. However, I feel that any diagnosis must be done very carefully and constantly revised given how quickly children change. I am also very wary of the pharmaceutical industry’s influence on and self-interest in creating a diagnosis for toddler depression.
The most intriguing part of the article dealt with possible treatment. It seems that PCIT is the most effective treatment. But as the article states, “not all parents are equipped to handle the vigilance, the consistency, the sensitivity” that PCIT requires to be effective. Not to mention the financial resources, time, or access to mental health providers. And if a caregiver is also experiencing depression or anxiety, they will be that less likely to be able to recognize depression in their child, much less support and help treat them. I feel especially grim about the prospects of children from lower socioeconomic groups getting any type of treatment or support from their over-extended families, schools, or community health centers.

]]> Comment on Who Will Be the Smallest Kid in Kindergarten? by Nicole http://www.pamelapaul.com/2010/08/23/who-will-be-the-smallest-kid-in-kindergarten/#comment-58 Nicole Sun, 29 Aug 2010 05:22:01 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/blog/?p=45#comment-58 While reading this article, I kept hearing my mother's voice telling me, "I never said life was fair". Why are all of these parents (and states playing with the age cut-off date) trying to game the system? What kind of children are we producing (at least the kids from economically priveleged families that can afford an extra year of very pricey daycare) when education is viewed as an opportuinity to make a child the star of their peers instead of an opportunity to actually get a well-rounded education? This constant striving to make our kids the "best" by any means possible is very disturbing and frustrating. By no means am I endorsing mediocrity, but the excessive redshirting seems to just create an uneven playing field and not more capable children. While reading this article, I kept hearing my mother’s voice telling me, “I never said life was fair”. Why are all of these parents (and states playing with the age cut-off date) trying to game the system? What kind of children are we producing (at least the kids from economically priveleged families that can afford an extra year of very pricey daycare) when education is viewed as an opportuinity to make a child the star of their peers instead of an opportunity to actually get a well-rounded education? This constant striving to make our kids the “best” by any means possible is very disturbing and frustrating. By no means am I endorsing mediocrity, but the excessive redshirting seems to just create an uneven playing field and not more capable children.

]]> Comment on Who Will Be the Smallest Kid in Kindergarten? by Richard Fairgrieves http://www.pamelapaul.com/2010/08/23/who-will-be-the-smallest-kid-in-kindergarten/#comment-57 Richard Fairgrieves Mon, 23 Aug 2010 17:48:59 +0000 http://www.pamelapaul.com/blog/?p=45#comment-57 Suzanne needs to check her books again. Right author wrong book! Suzanne needs to check her books again. Right author wrong book!

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