Category Archives: Sleep

Looking for Woofles

One of the first pieces of advice I give to parents is to please, please buy more than one lovey (doesn’t that word somehow reek of powdered old ladies?) — once a lovey has been selected. All parts of this are important, trust me. Let’s start with the “selection” of the lovey. This is not always up to the parent. With my daughter Beatrice, I was very keen on her adopting one of two stuffed maggots (or perhaps they were worms) that we picked up in Japan, and my husband dubbed Charles and Camilla (yes, irony). They are actually absurdly cute creatures (the stuffed Japanese version, that is), and I loved the idea of my daughter clutching worms rather than the usual doggie, bunny or teddy bear.

But Beatrice would have none of it. In fact, she routinely kicked Charles and Camilla out of the crib, shoving them through the slats with her toes. Instead, she glommed onto Sally, a completely generic pink and blonde doll. She became so attached to Sally, in fact, that we began to panic about what would happen if Sally ever got sullied, or heaven forbid — LOST! So we bought Substitute Sally, which was easy enough, since Sally was a fairly generic product made by Gund.

Other parents have not had it so lucky. Some parents fall into the nostalgic mistake of passing their own childhood lovey down to their children. This sounds charming. The problem is, that used lovey not only went through years of sloppy kisses and abuse by the parent, but then suffered a likely 25 to 30 years of aging on a shelf or in a carton. By the time your son or daughter gets it, he is primed for disintegration. Even worse, because he was manufactured decades ago, a replacement will be near impossible to find.

So you would think after giving all this thought, I’d be well prepared for my son Tobey. The selection of his lovey came at the suggestion of the amazing Donna Holloran, who runs Babygroup in Los Angeles. (I write all about Donna and her fabulous new mothers group in Chapter Seven of my book). Anyway, when Tobey couldn’t sleep, Donna suggested giving him one of those little silky blankets (you know the ones — ever parent gets at least three of them as gifts from their in-laws’ friends). I was initially skeptical — Beatrice had wanted nothing to do with silkies. But Tobey proved what I know now — Baby #2 shows parents that they know nothing about babies;’they just know about Baby #1. He loved it.

The silky we gave him had a stuffed dog attached, and together, they were Woofles. Once Tobey and Woofles had established a relationship, I went online and ordered Woofles 2.0, my backup. All went swimmingly. I rotated between the two so that each got covered in the ineffable babymommybreastmilkdrool essence that makes lovies so delicious to their owners and so repugnant to all others.

Then Woofles exploded. Little pellets of god-knows-what made-in-China toxic substance came streaming out. Alarmed, and imagining at least four of these pellets already permanently lodged in Tobey’s digestive tract, we threw Woofles away. Woofles 2.0 became Tobey’s standard, and I immediately ordered Woofles III.

That’s where things fell apart. Tobey wants nothing to do with Woofles III. I have wrapped him in Woofles 2.0 to absorb the smell. I myself have slept with Woofles the Third. I went so far as to soak both Woofles together in hot water (it turned dark gray, ech) so that Woofles III could fully absorb the essential Woofleness of the Treasured One. To all of this, Tobey says, quite distinctly, “Neh.” If offered Woofles III he shoves him away “Neh!” Woofles III sits forlorn in a corner of the crib, untouched, unwanted, disdained.

I may add here that the manufacturer of the Woofles didn’t help by slightly altering the design in the interim between my orders. Woofles III is ever so slightly bigger than the previous woofles. Word of advice to manufacturers: NEVER, ever tweak a lovey design! Babies will know the difference.

And now the inevitable. Woofles 2.0 exploded this week. I have sewed up all his limps, but the clock is ticking. This weekend, I plan to remove Woofles 2.0 and force Tobey to accept Woofles III. I expect hours of sleeplessness and tears. I am not looking forward….

Twilight of the Nap

After three days in a row of my almost-three-year-old spending “nap period” dashing between her bed and the potty, I have come to the sorrowful conclusion that “my” nap period is coming to a close. Of course, my 16-month-old son still snoozes away for at least two hours, but the days of closing the nursery door at 1pm and having two hours of freedom are over. It’s Monday, so this hasn’t really affected me yet, though I suspect I will sense the real repercussions this weekend when I’m officially on duty. I suppose I’m supposed to herald this moment as yet another “milestone” bumped into and hurdled over by my glorious progeny, but I can’t help mourn my own lost time…